If ‘Americans’ are asked to tolerate ‘homosexuals,’ it means that at some level homosexuals are not fully Americans. Being the object of tolerance does not represent full inclusion in American life, but rather a grudging form of acceptance in which the boundary between ‘us’ and ‘them’ remains clear, sometimes dangerously so. This boundary is also elevated to a mark of moral virtue. The tolerant are generous and open-minded even as they are exclusionary. How can a tolerance that depends on defining someone as an outsider be the opposite of hate? To teach tolerance is to teach precisely the type of us-them relationship upon which hate thrives. Teaching tolerance, then, cannot be the answer to hate and excessive violence, nor can tolerance adequately address other forms of social division.
—Love the Sin: Sexual Regulation and the Limits of Religious Tolerance by Janet Jakobsen and Ann Pellegrini (via sociolab)